If you’ve been single for longer than a commercial break, you’ve probably had someone tell you why they think you’re single. They might say it through a joke, or they might be completely serious. Either way, it’s annoying and usually unwarranted.

I’ve had people tell me why they think I’m single.

When they tell me “this is why you’re single”, I respond by saying “this is why I don’t like you”.

I didn’t ask for your advice, nor am I questioning why I’m single. I know why I’m single. And most single people know why we’re single, so keep your thoughts to yourself.

Young man is looking at the sunrise.

Maybe we aren’t dating because it’s a busy time in our lives and we don’t want to start a relationship that we don’t have the time or energy for. It would be unfair to the other person to start something we can’t sustain.

Maybe we aren’t dating because we haven’t found anybody we want to date and we don’t want to date just anybody.

Maybe we aren’t dating because we want to work on our relationship with God, family, friends, and even ourselves.

Or maybe, if you’re like me, you aren’t dating because you’re not ready to share your food with someone quite yet. You say you’re not hungry, but when I get my food, you want some of my fries. I ain’t ready for that.

Don’t listen to those who want to critique you for being single.

There is nothing wrong with being single.

It can be a time of growth and joy. Being single doesn’t mean no one wants to date you. Instead, it means that you have standards & you’re strong enough to wait.

If you’re telling people “this is why you’re single”, stop. We don’t need your “expert” advice. We have our reasons and it’s none of your business.

Go to talk the mirror because that’s the only person who cares about what you have to say.

If I want your advice, then I’ll ask, but if I don’t ask for your advice, then you shouldn’t give it.

Jordan Kranda
Follower of Jesus. Husband to Ariel. Master’s of Theology (Greek Track) Graduate. Future Pastor. Present lover of cheese, Blink-182, & watching sports.


  1. Yes! I even had a stranger chime in once and tell me it’s probably because my standards are too high. …thanks? I wish I would’ve just told them it was because I’m also not ready to share my fries.

  2. Love this! Sometimes I find people say “I can’t believe you’re single!” As a compliment but it only makes me feel like some kind of failure, or something must be wrong with me because I’m single. This isn’t a compliment!


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