She was the cutest girl at my work. She also wasn’t a Christian. She knew that I want to honor Jesus with my life, but that didn’t stop her from trying to do what she did. Three weeks ago, she told me explicitly that she wanted to have sex.
She repeatedly said sexually provocative statements and ended it with, “just remember, I’m only a phone call away. Whenever you have a urge, just call me and I’ll be right over”.
Two thoughts were in my head when I heard that: 1) This is the greatest thing anyone has ever told me 2) I have to get away from this girl. I ended up distancing myself from her and now we don’t talk. It would be an understatement to say that it was easy, but, looking back, I can say I’m proud of how it turned out.
I tell you that story because dating is important.
This post isn’t about convincing you to save sex for marriage. I can’t do that, only God can. As you know, we think a lot about sex. Sex is a frequent visitor in my mind and it arrives at such random times. I can be driving and then see a random license plate and suddenly I’m thinking about sex. It’s crazy and unexplainable. I’ve got better at controlling my thoughts, but my mind is still prone to venture off into a dirty place.
It’s in your best interest to not be consumed by lust.
Having sex with that person isn’t going to solve your problems. You might think that having sex just that one time will satisfy your sexual appetite, but it won’t. In fact, it’ll only make you lust more. Also, you might think watching porn is harmless, but it’s just as destructive, if not more, than having sex.
We can’t just be people who do whatever our bodies tells us to do. Instead, we need to be people who do whatever Jesus tells us to do. My body was clearly telling me to have sex with my co-worker. She didn’t want to be my girlfriend, but instead she wanted to be “friends with benefits”. Whenever I had an urge, she wanted to satisfy it without any commitments of a relationship. To some people, this sounds like heaven. For some moments of a day, I feel like I am one of those people.
My body was screaming that this was perfect, but my God was gently telling me that I had to walk away. I ended up walking away and you should too.
Our bodies often tell us to do things that we know we shouldn’t do. We can even find doing these things enjoyable. For example, I’ve heard of married people committing adultery and enjoying every moment of their illicit affair. I’ve dated girls in the past and my body has tempted me to cheat on them, but I didn’t because I knew it was wrong. My body was wrong, as it is often.
You might not understand it now, but God is greater than sex. I haven’t had sex and I understand that sex is something special that I only want to experience in my future marriage, but, to be honest, I’ve had seasons of my life where I’ve wished that Jesus would allow me to have sex with whomever I wanted.
The struggle of sexual purity reminds me that sex is worth the fight.
Anything that is difficult usually has a great payoff. My payoff will be telling my wife, “I sought to be faithful to you and to love you even before I met you. And now, I want to spend the rest of my life reminding you of my love for you each day we’re married”. That payoff will be great. I truly look forward to that day.
Listen to Jesus, not your body.
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