Sex is in our TV shows, our movies, our music, and in our minds. Everyone wants to have sex and it seems like no one is waiting to have sex till marriage.
However, I’m 24 years-old, I haven’t had sex, and I won’t till I’m married.
Before you label me as a weirdo or think that I’m just horrible with women, hear me out.
My main reason I’m waiting to have sex till marriage isn’t actually rooted in a Bible verse, but instead it’s rooted in a Biblical concept: faithfulness. I’ll start by briefing talking about what the Bible says about waiting to have sex till marriage, then I’ll devote the rest of this post to why I’m personally waiting.
First and foremost, the Bible says that sex is meant for married people only (1 Corinthians 7, Hebrews 13:4, Genesis 2:24).
Anyone who has experienced divorce knows that it sucks. The divorce of my parents was extremely painful. I remember hating that I didn’t come home to a home with my mom and dad in it. Instead, I had to wait till the weekend to go to my dads. I felt like a void was missing in my life and that void was happiness. I never want to get a divorce and I honestly feel like wanting to have sex increases my likelihood of not getting a divorce.
The foundation of a lasting marriage is based on your faithfulness to Jesus and your faithfulness to each other, so waiting to have sex is building my faithfulness in both these areas. I’m practicing faithfulness to her before our marriage, our first kiss, and even our first date.
I believe Jesus has an amazing women of God in His plans for my life. I’d be lying if I said waiting was easy, since it’s not, but there lies another motivation. The hardest tasks usually have the greatest payoffs. The fact that it requires a lot of prayer and work to wait to have sex shows me that waiting is the best thing.
If you’re like me in that you’re waiting to have sex till marriage, then be encouraged. You’re not alone. I’m right there with you and there are many other people with us. You are not a freak, a loser, or whatever people might call you.
Lastly, if you’ve had sex before marriage, don’t beat yourself up. Jesus still loves you.
Some of the greatest Christians I know have made this mistake. No one is perfect and you can have a fresh start by making the commitment to wait again. Your spouse will love that you made that commitment and won’t hold your past against you. Personally, I don’t care if my future wife has had sex or not. I’m dated many girls who have had sex and it wasn’t an issue for me. All I care about is that she’s living for Jesus now.
Why are you waiting to have sex till marriage?
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