It’s never easy living in a world where we rely on numbers to make us feel accepted and frame how we view ourselves. What is your GPA? What is your account balance? What is your weight? These issues are key ways that make us doubt if we are “good” enough. Unfortunately, the constant number that the media has us focused on is the number of our weight (i.e. if your number is low, then you’re beautiful).

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This article addresses the hate that comes from this obsession with our weight, but you might be surprised to learn what perspective this article takes. Also, this article is the product of my friend, Elisa Perez, and I having a discussion. In other words, we wrote it together. She brought up excellent points that I would overlook, since I’m not a girl. We hope you benefit from our discussion.

We often hear those who are thinner express their dislike for those who are “curvy”. This is absolutely ridiculous. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. However, we must not forget that this hate is an issue that goes both ways.

Some curvy girls like to make themselves feel better by putting down skinny girls. This hate is just as wrong as the hate that skinny girls sometimes show curvy girls.

All hate is wrong.

The image below is specifically what this article is attacking.

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Curvy girls make themselves feel better by saying they’re beautiful. This is a wonderful thing, since curvy girls are beautiful. However, some often prove their beauty by saying they’re more beautiful than the prototypical skinny girl. Specifically, they claim skinny girls have no butt, no boobs, no hips and so forth. In their minds, they are “real women”, while skinny girls are considered teenage boys. This hate has to go.

You are beautiful. You shouldn’t have to prove how attractive you are by showing the unattractiveness of someone else. Irvin Himmel said it best when he said, “No one has ever made himself great by showing how small someone else is.” You’re beautiful because you are you, not because you are better than “them”.

Being beautiful is determined by the size of your heart, not by the size of your waist. Click to Tweet

The love you have for others reveals the true beauty you have, not the number on a scale.

Just because you get constant criticism from those who are smaller than you doesn’t in any way confirm the fact that you’re doing the same thing as the smaller girls that bully you. Two wrongs don’t make a right. I don’t work out because I have a tremendous love for sweat, I do it because I have a tremendous love for myself. I feel that if you have respect for yourself, you will do things that will show that respect. This respect can manifest itself by you bettering yourself intellectually, spiritually, and even physically (i.e. working out).

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You might think that you’re not criticizing people, but instead that you’re criticizing the false and unrealistc standard this world has created. However, how are you showing the falseness of this standard? You point out how the “beautiful” girls aren’t that beautiful in some capacity. We’re constantly being brought down by each other. This has to stop. Where is the love? I think it’s somewhere deep inside of you, it just needs to be realized.

We must come together and realize that the world is more beautiful when we accept each other for our differences. Before you criticize the false standard of beauty that this world has created, choose your words wisely. Don’t post picture of skinny girls and claim that curvy girls are more attractive than them.

Some girls are naturally skinny while other girls enjoy working out, so don’t push these girls down in order to build yourself up.

Your indirect attacks on “skinny girls” is directly hurting girls.

I can’t understand everything on this subject, since I’m a guy. However, I can tell you that I’ve dated girls who appeared to weigh less than my right thigh and I’ve also dated girls who would be considered “curvy”. These girls were immensely beautiful in my eyes.

Each girl made me excited before each date and their smiles were equally radiant. However, the hate I hear between these rival gangs (i.e. skinny and curvy) is absurd. I’ve heard curvy and skinny girls call each other ugly.  As a outsider, you all look beautiful, but you also all look ridiculous when you indirectly claim others aren’t beautiful.

Hate in all it’s forms is evil. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Don’t lift yourself up by pushing others down.

You are beautiful because you are you, not because you are not “them”.

Jordan Kranda
Follower of Jesus. Husband to Ariel. Master’s of Theology (Greek Track) Graduate. Future Pastor. Present lover of cheese, Blink-182, & watching sports.

10 COMMENTS

  1. The majority of all severely underweight and overweight people can “help it.” Choosing to eat far to many calories a day is even more preventable than not having enough food to eat. Or the means to Acquire more. Less than 1% of the more than 160 million people in this country with a weight problem, have a legitimate verifiable medical reason for their weight. So drop that ignorant excuse right now. Medical fact: to fall into the healthy zone for body fat, no person should have a waist measurement larger than 1/2 of their height. Furthermore, regardless of height, all men should have a waist measurement of LESS THAN 37 Inches. And, all women should have a waist measurement of LESS THANK 32 inches. If you are speaking specifically about universal attraction, the hourglass figure is scientifically regarded as the most appealing. An hour glass figure is one where the breast and hip measurements are roughly equal, and the waist measurement is 70% of the hip measurement. Bigger with curves is not usually considered universally more attractive. But could certainly indicate being overweight and/or obese. In addition, 55% of overweight people in America do not see themselves as mesically overweight. Either from lack of what a “healthy” weight actually should be, or simply in denial regarding their specific weight and body image compared to the other 66% of overweight Americans they see every day.

  2. for the most part this is a very good point… however it is extremely one sided and only presents the opinion of a thin girl. Though I agree it is wrong of curvy girls like myself to criticize thin girls, I’d also like to point out that quite frequently this happens because girls like me have spent our entire life being snickered at, stared at and made fun of by skinny girls.

    Again, not saying it’s right. Just saying it’s not an out of the blue thing. Many many curvy girls have been harassed by thin girls our entire lives. I remember a skinnier girl telling me I was too fat to wear a two piece swim suit at swimming lessons when we were five.

    Please Jordan, remember there are two sides to every story.

  3. This is a good, balanced post. As a naturally very thin woman, I’ve never been the recepient of bullying, but a few people have questioned if I struggled with an eating disorder (which I never have). I have to explain my size a lot, but I think the most important thing I can do is smile and say “All women of every shape and size are beautiful.” Thanks for this post!

  4. As I was reading your post it caught my attention because it discusses a prominent subject in today’s culture. I agree with all of your points- not only are they well articulated you also worked alongside a female colleague to include a male and female perspective, which provides accuracy.
    I did want to comment though on a personal conviction. Through observation on the way we as a society look at individuals based on weight and size, I have reason to believe that “curvy” ( or other people of thicker body structures) feel the need to “attack” thinner individuals because society has a narrow perception of beauty-encouraging women that they need to be a certain size to feel worthy of themselves in a sense. Not that this is any justification for words or actions expressed to people of different body types and shapes, but it is another point in the argument. Society has warped our minds to view each other as enemies over something as ridiculous as body structure. It’s unfortunate to see many women conform to society’s view that you must be “skinny” in order to find something abstract like love and happiness. A great example of this is Victoria Secret’s “Love my body campaign” vs. Dove’s “Real beauty campaign”. Through years of lingerie commercials, it’s obvious that Victoria Secret’s models are tall and thin so their campaign is directed towards women who have thin bodies to love. Dove on the other hand directs their campaign toward women of all sizes and color.
    With society’s main focus and promotion on thinner women, tension will always arise between women of different body types, but with campaigns like Dove’s there remains a chance to close the gap and competition between women-and even men- and be more accepting of each other within today’s society.

  5. Unfortunately the media aggravates this situation. I remember a few years ago looking at the front covers of some newspapers. One day, one newspaper showed a picture of Victoria Beckham with a headline pointing out that she was too skinny. The next day there was a picture of Melanie Chisholm with a headline pointing out that she was too fat. Yes, Victoria was skinnier than Melanie, but if one was too skinny, and one was too fat, where was the happy medium?

    I think it’s important to recognise the health issues when it comes to size. There are large people who are unhealthy and unfit, but there are also small people who are in the same boat. As long as we are not abusing our bodies by under- or over-eating, then we have nothing to worry about.

    Your beauty, through Jesus, shines through, no matter what size or shape you are.

  6. Jordan!!! You couldn’t have written this better!! Oh my gosh, I am so glad someone has the intelligence to write an article about sizes and tell people how absurd they sound when criticizing each other over something so trivial. Thank you for writing this.

  7. the truth of the matter is, most fat girls cant help being fat and most skinny girls cant help being skinny. Everyone’s body is different.

    I have friends of both body types. Sometimes i eat way more then my friends that are bigger then me… yet way less then those smaller then me. Lots of people thing big people over eat or “eat themselves to death” when i see thats not always true. They see a skinny person and think they are starving themselves to look that way, which also isnt always the case. I know 2 people that were skinny and were trying to eat so they can have a “womens body” (as they put it).

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