It’s never easy living in a world where we rely on numbers to make us feel accepted and frame how we view ourselves. What is your GPA? What is your account balance? What is your weight? These issues are key ways that make us doubt if we are “good” enough. Unfortunately, the constant number that the media has us focused on is the number of our weight (i.e. if your number is low, then you’re beautiful).
This article addresses the hate that comes from this obsession with our weight, but you might be surprised to learn what perspective this article takes. Also, this article is the product of my friend, Elisa Perez, and I having a discussion. In other words, we wrote it together. She brought up excellent points that I would overlook, since I’m not a girl. We hope you benefit from our discussion.
We often hear those who are thinner express their dislike for those who are “curvy”. This is absolutely ridiculous. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. However, we must not forget that this hate is an issue that goes both ways.
Some curvy girls like to make themselves feel better by putting down skinny girls. This hate is just as wrong as the hate that skinny girls sometimes show curvy girls.
All hate is wrong.
The image below is specifically what this article is attacking.
Curvy girls make themselves feel better by saying they’re beautiful. This is a wonderful thing, since curvy girls are beautiful. However, some often prove their beauty by saying they’re more beautiful than the prototypical skinny girl. Specifically, they claim skinny girls have no butt, no boobs, no hips and so forth. In their minds, they are “real women”, while skinny girls are considered teenage boys. This hate has to go.
You are beautiful. You shouldn’t have to prove how attractive you are by showing the unattractiveness of someone else. Irvin Himmel said it best when he said, “No one has ever made himself great by showing how small someone else is.” You’re beautiful because you are you, not because you are better than “them”.
The love you have for others reveals the true beauty you have, not the number on a scale.
Just because you get constant criticism from those who are smaller than you doesn’t in any way confirm the fact that you’re doing the same thing as the smaller girls that bully you. Two wrongs don’t make a right. I don’t work out because I have a tremendous love for sweat, I do it because I have a tremendous love for myself. I feel that if you have respect for yourself, you will do things that will show that respect. This respect can manifest itself by you bettering yourself intellectually, spiritually, and even physically (i.e. working out).
You might think that you’re not criticizing people, but instead that you’re criticizing the false and unrealistc standard this world has created. However, how are you showing the falseness of this standard? You point out how the “beautiful” girls aren’t that beautiful in some capacity. We’re constantly being brought down by each other. This has to stop. Where is the love? I think it’s somewhere deep inside of you, it just needs to be realized.
We must come together and realize that the world is more beautiful when we accept each other for our differences. Before you criticize the false standard of beauty that this world has created, choose your words wisely. Don’t post picture of skinny girls and claim that curvy girls are more attractive than them.
Some girls are naturally skinny while other girls enjoy working out, so don’t push these girls down in order to build yourself up.
Your indirect attacks on “skinny girls” is directly hurting girls.
I can’t understand everything on this subject, since I’m a guy. However, I can tell you that I’ve dated girls who appeared to weigh less than my right thigh and I’ve also dated girls who would be considered “curvy”. These girls were immensely beautiful in my eyes.
Each girl made me excited before each date and their smiles were equally radiant. However, the hate I hear between these rival gangs (i.e. skinny and curvy) is absurd. I’ve heard curvy and skinny girls call each other ugly. As a outsider, you all look beautiful, but you also all look ridiculous when you indirectly claim others aren’t beautiful.
Hate in all it’s forms is evil. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Don’t lift yourself up by pushing others down.
You are beautiful because you are you, not because you are not “them”.