The love story of Augustus Waters and Hazel Grace is one for the ages. Everything about their love inspires and encourages us to someday have that kind of love. However, love stories like these can do some damage.



These love stories can create a false definition of love. People read these stories and imagine love to be like what they are reading. Girls want their own Augustus Waters. They look at this fairy tale and expect it to become a part of their reality.

Many Hollywood love stories make people think that love will solve all their problems, that it’ll be easy, and it’ll always amazing. This is a lie.

There is a scene in the movie that epitomes true love though. The scene is when Gus calls Hazel early in the morning and he is in trouble.


Hazel rushes to his aid to find Gus doused in his own vomit, slurring his speech, and emotionally falling apart. Hazel takes care if him. This, my friend, is true love.

Love is beautiful, but love is also messy.

You will have arguments, you will get cry, and you will think about giving up on the relationship. Movies can make you believe that love is none of these, but your experience will tell you otherwise.

To be clear, love is messy, but this, by no means, means you will have to settle for an unhappy existence. Love endures all things (1 Cor. 13:7). These things will happen, but, if your love is true, you will make it through these dark valleys and your love will be a better, more tested, more faithful, and more enjoyable love because of it.

Hollywood love stories can cause you harm, if you expect your personal love story to be like a fairy tale. News flash: The Fault In Our Stars is not real! Fairy tales are fake, but true love is real.

If you expect your love to be like a fairy tale, you will quit a relationship at the first sign of trouble.

You might think that love shouldn’t be hard and require effort, so you bail when things start getting difficult.

Love is not a fairly-tale, love is real. Reality is full of pain and suffering, and our relationships also model this truth. Your love will not be like a fairly tale, but your love will be better. Your future spouse will endure these dark valleys and still love you. They won’t leave you because they love you.

Also, don’t feel like your love story will not be as good as the ones you read about in your books. Yours will be a love story for the ages. You will proudly tell your future grand kids your love story.

God is writing your love story and He will write you an amazing one.

Love is not picture perfect. Love is not easy. Love requires effort. Love never gives up. Love never fails. Love is better than what you’ve read.

Jordan Kranda
Follower of Jesus. Husband to Ariel. Master’s of Theology (Greek Track) Graduate. Future Pastor. Present lover of cheese, Blink-182, & watching sports.


  1. Exactly! so often we think of only the ‘nice’ things in love..but we forget that even the Bible’s description of loves promises hardship and encourages patience and endurance.
    Love today is viewed as some kind of out of control feeling that we can’t control and just fall in and out of just like that. I believe loving someone is seeing everything that they good and bad and making a very conscious decision to commit yourself to that person!
    I want to love someone the way God loves me in truth, in all the mess and tears and problems..and yet in all the good and the His life for me because despite all that I am ..He chooses me and says I’m worth it!

  2. So true! We learn to love from God, he is the origin of love and putting him first on a relationship bases earthly love in his heavenly love. To see real love we need only look to the Lord and his sacrifice for us.
    Thank you so much for all of your encouraging posts. And for being unashamed in your faith!
    It gives me hope that one day I will find a godly man with whom I can share a love like no other!


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