I just got engaged to my fiancé. I spent over six months planning everything about the proposal, which also included planning the engagement party, which was immediately after I proposed. Needless to say, it was exhausting, stressful, but ultimately it was well worth it.

The engagement was everything I could have hoped for and more. The cherry on the top was Ariel telling me, “This day was seriously perfect”. She was hypnotized by her ring, loved taking our engagement photos, and loved seeing all her family and friends at our engagement party. I feel extremely happy with how things worked out.

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Me proposing to my fiancé.

Planning to propose to your girlfriend is one of the most exciting times in your life. You getting ready to marry the love of your life. You will forever look back on this time with a smile and a full heart. So, here are some of my tips for planning a proposal. I’m not claiming to be an expert, but I read lots of articles on the subject, did my own thing, and feel like it was the perfect proposal for us. And isn’t  that the goal? So, here’s my tips:

Ask her best friends for help

This was one of the first things I did. My now fiancé has lived with her best friend Morgan for the past four years. So my fiancé is obviously extremely close to Morgan. Therefore, I asked Morgan for advice about everything from what kind of engagement ring Ariel, my fiancé, wants to what food should be at the engagement party. I was texting and meeting up with Morgan all the time.

Girls usually love to talk to each other about things related to their future weddings. This is why getting advice from them is immensely important. They will help steer away from mistakes and towards correct decisions. Lastly, getting advice from her best friend(s) will not only help you make the right decision, but it will also make your future fiancé feel more special about her ring, since it was a group effort to make her dream ring become a reality. She will be thankful that so many people helped to chip in time and effort to make her proposal happen.

Set a budget and stick to it

You don’t want to overspend to propose, then get married with major debt. It’s not wise to go into a marriage making poor financial decisions (also good advice when you start planning your wedding). So, look at your financial situation and decide on a figure that you can spend and not freak out about.

Remember, proposing, getting married, and eventually being married are all expensive endeavors, so make wise financial decisions. You want to spend the future with her, but make sure to set yourself up for a good future by not overspending for a ring. Be responsible.

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Ask for advice from knowledgeable people.

I asked anyone I thought was smart about things related to the proposal. I asked questions related to proposal locations, plans for the day of the engagement, what to say when I propose, engagement party, and so on. Asking lots of questions is a good thing, since you’re getting lots of data, which you can sort through to pick out what is useful and what is not.

Also, just because you ask for advice doesn’t mean you should follow it. People will love to share their opinion with you, but ultimately do what you want to do. It’s your engagement. Ask advice, think through things, and do what you think is best.

Don’t rush the process.

I’ve known people who have rushed through the engagement process, which concerns me on many levels. First, you shouldn’t rush something important. Good things take time and important things take even more time.

Don’t rush through picking the ring, since you plan for her to be wearing it for a long, long time. That ring will instantly become her most treasured possession, so you shouldn’t rush the process, which would increase the likelihood of you making a mistake. Take your time. Grab some cheese, put it on a cracker, watch some sunsets, and relax. You’re planning a proposal, not a fantasy football draft. Take your time and, my last tip, enjoy it.

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Don’t forget to enjoy the process.

Picking the ring was stressful, emotionally and physically draining, and tedious.  I remember thinking to myself, “Ariel will be wearing this ring for the rest of her life and I don’t want to mess it up by picking the wrong ring”.

I drowned myself in worry, but then I reminded myself that I get to marry this smart, funny, and beautiful girl! This is so flipping awesome. I get to marry my best friend! This reminded me how this whole stressful process is a wonderful thing. This mentality encouraged me to enjoy every moment, even the not-so-fun moments like the months of research. I enjoyed stressing over it, since it reminded me how much l love Ariel. I want to do everything in my power to make sure she is smiling, laughing, and enjoying the life God gave us. I want to spend the rest of my life stressing over how I can plan things to make her see how important to me.

The engagement process is extremely stressful, but don’t forget to enjoy every moment of this process. You are going to be getting married! How exciting is that? I’d say it’s really exciting, so exciting that you shouldn’t allow any amount of stress to distract you from the many blessings happening in your life, one being you getting married to your dream girl. So, enjoy the process of getting engaged.

Jordan Kranda
Follower of Jesus. Engaged to Ariel. Church Intern. Graduate Student. Writing A Sexual Purity Book.