Many lies are said about Christian men. People take them as fact without knowing that they are completely wrong. As a Christian guy, I cannot stand these lies. This post is the three myths about Christian men that bug me the most.

“Christian men don’t exist”

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This is the most popular myth about Christian men. Many people believe that Christian men are rare these days. I know girls who say that Christian men are rare, yet I know a bunch of Christian guys around them. Girls like this put unrealistic expectations on Christian guys. No Christian guy fits into their expectation, so they falsely assume that there are no Christian guys period. They assume Christian guys will never laugh at immature jokes, or never be tempted sexually, or never use foul language, and they will be able to quote Scripture like their pastor. However, these are unfair expectations.

If the guys at your church don’t fit your unreachable expectations, you might not say that Christian men don’t exist but instead you’ll say that you don’t know any good Christian men. As a Christian guy, that sucks. We’re right next to you and you say we’re not a “good” Christian guy. How do you think that makes us feel? It makes us feel like we’re invisible to you. Stop believing a myth.

“Christian men don’t struggle with sexual temptation”

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Guys are pigs. This is a popular saying. As a guy, I would actually agree with this statement. Guys can do messed up things and feel no guilt about it. This can be serious things, but also small things. Personally, I hate myself for laughing at YouTube videos of old people falling ( I know I’m messed up). Also, I laugh at the most immature jokes ever (“yo momma” jokes actually make me laugh).

On a more serious note, when a girl wears something provocative my eyes immediately want to lust. Earlier today, I saw a girl at a gas station who looked like she thought we still lived in the Garden of Eden since she wasn’t wearing much clothing. My immediate response wasn’t saying, “Gross! That’s just nasty!”. Nope. My immediate response was, “Oh snap! I think I just got a bruise from falling in love!”. Luckily, I quickly looked away. However, this is a daily temptation and many days I don’t look away. Christian men still struggle with sexual temptation.

I understand that being a follower of Jesus should make Christians guys live differently than non-Christian men. We need to be a light in darkness, but the Holy Spirit is still perfecting us. Show us some grace. Christian guys still struggle with sexual temptation. Studies show that 50% of all Christian men say they’re addicted to pornography. Does that surprise you? It doesn’t surprise me.

Sexual temptation is a problem that every guy struggles with at sometime or another. Don’t believe the myth that Christian men don’t struggle with sexual temptation. That same study said that 51% of pastors said that porn was a temptation for them. Sexual temptation is struggle for even the most mature Christian men. Christian guys need to get their act together, but Christian guys also need some grace.

“A Christian man is the solution to your problems”

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Many people think that their life would be a lot better if they were dating a man of God. Guys and girls are both guilty of believing this lie, but, for my purposes, I’m only focusing on girls. Many girls dream about falling in love, getting married, and living happily ever after. These girls feel that their “prince charming” will solve all their problems. This is an unrealistic expectation of a man. This puts unnecessary pressure on him and you both will be disappointed when you realize that you’re asking a guy to do something only God can do. The only person that can solve your problems is the Son of Man, not the gentleman.

I’m not going to solve all my future wife’s problems. In fact, I’m going to add to her problems. You can’t put two imperfect people together and expect things to be perfect. Her problems with become mine and my problems will be become hers. Her problems will double with me!

I will forget to put down the toilet seat, I will want to watch the Laker game instead of the Bachelor, and I will want to eat Taco Bell for every meal. These are just a taste of the problems that are in store for her. I will work at being the man she deserves, but I will still make mistakes. I cannot solve all her problems. I will do everything in my power to help her, but I can only do so much. Don’t believe the myth that a Christian guy will solve all your problems.

What are your thoughts? Do you have another lie about Christian men that I didn’t put down?

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Jordan Kranda
Follower of Jesus. Husband to Ariel. Master’s of Theology (Greek Track) Graduate. Future Pastor. Present lover of cheese, Blink-182, & watching sports.

18 COMMENTS

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  2. Every one of these myths applies to the way Christian guys look at Christian girls. Let’s talk about #2:

    Guess what? I am a girl and I struggle with lustful thoughts too. And no not just when I see a shirtless dude or a guy in shorts and a tank top. They could be fully clothed and I would still have sinful thoughts about them. (Oh and im not the only one. i know so many girls that struggle)I know this is something I need to work on but the only difference is between me and a guy is that I don’t tell guys to change how they dress so that I’m not tempted. I dont tell the cute guy in jeans and a sweater to put a potato sack on and wear a paper bag over his head
    The blame falls on me for thinking that way, not them. I refuse to believe that men and women are created so different that men get more grace for their struggles. #2 on this list is just a long strung out version of the idiotic phrase “boys will be boys”. Which by the way is a WORDLY point of view, and not a Godly one.

  3. What an awesome blog! So much truth and great perspective from a younger man. I’ve already blown through my first marriage and praise God I’m growing as a Christian man! Stay strong and follow God and he’ll bless your life bro!!

  4. Jordan-
    Even though I have been married sixteen years, I still find your work to be refreshing and right on the mark.
    Women expect Christian men to be perfect because he is to be the leader of the family and leadership should be solid.
    Unfortunately, placing expectations on Christian men also sets them up for failure. As wives (girlfriends) we need to encourage our spouses and help to create in them what Christ desires.
    I applaud your blog and I love reading it!!! Good stuff!

  5. I think it’s safe to say that all human beings are pigs – not just males. Humans are sexual beings and therefore have an inherent tendency to lust over others, and this applies to women just as much as it applies to men. I am sick of this double standard that only people with male genitalia have sexual desires.

  6. I am married and find this curious as a Christian woman. It is good to know that someone is attempting to speak up for Christian men single for the most part. If I may, I would like to share from a wifes understanding of men, and in general her own Christian hus. Men are prone to habits whether good or bad for their bodies or souls. What is helpful is if the Christian woman will seek to pray for the man in her life for his good. Thus seeking God first for her mate and or boyfriend so they can learn what it is that God would have them to do. Yes it really helps if the man would seek to also pray for his wife likewise and be able to be sensitive to her needs as she should be sensitive to his. Manyjokes come out of the mis use of inones habits. These can be funny if not personally aimed at intended mate,or friend. But then that is where lies can also creep into the relationship whether married or just close in dating. Lies of, he should always pray for me,be the spiritual leader are expectations both should have. But reality sinks in when there is no prayer verbally shared in the relationship as desired either by the wife ir mate. There may be other areas of desired expectation to be met as well. But this should be key as well as shared Bible Study though not always done.These should be helpful in any relationship but so rarely done on a consistent basis. For the Christian woman these are expectations she has or should have. But reality says otherwise even though claims of faith are made. The Christian should desire to do this with others,depending too on their gift of services and ministry that God has given them to make use of. This may be a pet peeve of many women but is it equal in men?

  7. RETWEET. As usual, great post!!! You know you could’ve just summed up #2 with “be a strong, independent black woman who don’t need no man.” But I guess it’s fine either way. 😉

  8. I 100% agree with you! I do think so many girls, including some of my friends think a guy will complete them and fill the void in them (even my Christian friends) but really what they are doing is making this guy their savior. Guys and girls alike should be confident in who God has called them to be before entering into a relationship. And I also love your honesty about the second part, that takes guts. I wish girls had the decency to cover up a little. Guys need to stop treating girls like objects and girls need to stope dressing like they are. And the solution to this problem is Jesus. We need more of him, more of his conviction on the church about these issues, more of his grace for our brothers and sisters and more love and understanding for people that are battling temptations like this!
    I have lots of respect for you, keep it up!

  9. I love this! I can’t stand the “there are no Christian guys”. That’s just rude and ignorant. I have so much respect for your honesty and integrity. I always look forward to reading your posts. God Bless!

    • Thanks, Noelle! I completely agree with you. It makes our brothers in Christ feel invisible and disappointed. It should stop. And thank your for your encouragement!

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