Many lies are said about Christian men. People take them as fact without knowing that they are completely wrong. As a Christian guy, I cannot stand these lies. This post is the three myths about Christian men that bug me the most.
“Christian men don’t exist”
This is the most popular myth about Christian men. Many people believe that Christian men are rare these days. I know girls who say that Christian men are rare, yet I know a bunch of Christian guys around them. Girls like this put unrealistic expectations on Christian guys. No Christian guy fits into their expectation, so they falsely assume that there are no Christian guys period. They assume Christian guys will never laugh at immature jokes, or never be tempted sexually, or never use foul language, and they will be able to quote Scripture like their pastor. However, these are unfair expectations.
If the guys at your church don’t fit your unreachable expectations, you might not say that Christian men don’t exist but instead you’ll say that you don’t know any good Christian men. As a Christian guy, that sucks. We’re right next to you and you say we’re not a “good” Christian guy. How do you think that makes us feel? It makes us feel like we’re invisible to you. Stop believing a myth.
“Christian men don’t struggle with sexual temptation”
Guys are pigs. This is a popular saying. As a guy, I would actually agree with this statement. Guys can do messed up things and feel no guilt about it. This can be serious things, but also small things. Personally, I hate myself for laughing at YouTube videos of old people falling ( I know I’m messed up). Also, I laugh at the most immature jokes ever (“yo momma” jokes actually make me laugh).
On a more serious note, when a girl wears something provocative my eyes immediately want to lust. Earlier today, I saw a girl at a gas station who looked like she thought we still lived in the Garden of Eden since she wasn’t wearing much clothing. My immediate response wasn’t saying, “Gross! That’s just nasty!”. Nope. My immediate response was, “Oh snap! I think I just got a bruise from falling in love!”. Luckily, I quickly looked away. However, this is a daily temptation and many days I don’t look away. Christian men still struggle with sexual temptation.
I understand that being a follower of Jesus should make Christians guys live differently than non-Christian men. We need to be a light in darkness, but the Holy Spirit is still perfecting us. Show us some grace. Christian guys still struggle with sexual temptation. Studies show that 50% of all Christian men say they’re addicted to pornography. Does that surprise you? It doesn’t surprise me.
Sexual temptation is a problem that every guy struggles with at sometime or another. Don’t believe the myth that Christian men don’t struggle with sexual temptation. That same study said that 51% of pastors said that porn was a temptation for them. Sexual temptation is struggle for even the most mature Christian men. Christian guys need to get their act together, but Christian guys also need some grace.
“A Christian man is the solution to your problems”
Many people think that their life would be a lot better if they were dating a man of God. Guys and girls are both guilty of believing this lie, but, for my purposes, I’m only focusing on girls. Many girls dream about falling in love, getting married, and living happily ever after. These girls feel that their “prince charming” will solve all their problems. This is an unrealistic expectation of a man. This puts unnecessary pressure on him and you both will be disappointed when you realize that you’re asking a guy to do something only God can do. The only person that can solve your problems is the Son of Man, not the gentleman.
I’m not going to solve all my future wife’s problems. In fact, I’m going to add to her problems. You can’t put two imperfect people together and expect things to be perfect. Her problems with become mine and my problems will be become hers. Her problems will double with me!
I will forget to put down the toilet seat, I will want to watch the Laker game instead of the Bachelor, and I will want to eat Taco Bell for every meal. These are just a taste of the problems that are in store for her. I will work at being the man she deserves, but I will still make mistakes. I cannot solve all her problems. I will do everything in my power to help her, but I can only do so much. Don’t believe the myth that a Christian guy will solve all your problems.
What are your thoughts? Do you have another lie about Christian men that I didn’t put down?
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