Dating is an wonderful process. You learn a lot about yourself, and, above all else, dating is a lot of fun. However, there are many mistakes we make which translate to a bad date. This post will focus on a particular mistake committed by guys. This mistake concerns not planning out the first date.
Guys, if you don’t plan the first date, don’t bother planning the second date, since she won’t give you that chance.
Girls like guys with a plan. A plan demonstrates that you care about a girl, can be depended upon, and, if you plan correctly, you can be counted on to plan something fun.
Life is stressful and dating should be an enjoyable escape from the busyness of life.
If she has to worry about whether or not you can plan out a fun date, then get comfortable in your single bed because you’ll be sleeping in it for the rest of your life.
If a guy shows up to the first date and asks the girl, “So, what do you want to do?”, he should be convicted of a felony and the punishment should be a life full of celibacy. Guys, if you don’t plan the first date, then don’t bother planning the second date, since there won’t be one. You end up tweeting about being #ForeverAlone rather than being with that girl on a second date.
Guys, put some thought into the first date. There are countless tips about how to plan a good first date, but I’ll just give you one. This one is key. If you do this right, then everything else should fall into place. So, what is the tip?
Pick an activity which sparks conversations, not hinders conversations.
The first date is all about you getting to know each other. The setting for your first date is crucial. If you pick a loud and busy setting, you might as well give up on the date. You won’t be able to hear each other and you’ll both be annoyed. This is no good. However, a little planning goes a long way.
What activities hinder conversations? Dinner is always a must on a date, but what should you do for the “fun” aspect of the date? Every city is different, but things like going mini golfing or bowling, visiting an aquarium or an art gallery, or just people watching with a sundae in your hand are all good ideas for a first date.
These are all good because they all have a common element running through them?
Make sure the “fun aspect” of the date is you, not the activity.
The focus needs to be on each of you, not on your activity. You need an activity that allows you both to keep the conversation flowing, instead of drying up.
At this point, you might not agree with me. Let me demonstrate my point by bringing up a popular first date activity, which is absolutely horrible. A huge mistake some guys make is having their first date be dinner and a movie. Watching a movie completely eliminates conversations. You’ll be forced to be quiet and look at a screen for two hours, when you really should be talking and looking at each other for two hours. The movie will end and you’ll know a lot about the characters in the movie, but not a lot about the pretty girl next to you. Epic fail.
Guys, plan out the first date. It’ll make your life more easy.