There’s this girl at my work who I don’t want to love. She is negative, critical, annoying, and she even criticizes Taco Bell. She is beyond ridiculous. She also happens to be a Christian. You’d think that since we both love Jesus, it’s easy to love her. Wrong. So very wrong.

Jesus commands us to love one another (John 13:34-35). He even summed up all the laws in the Old Testament with love; we are to love God and love people.


The Apostle John also had convicting things to say about love:

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” – 1 John 4:7-8

Needless to say, love is a big deal to God. Why is that? Well, we can see how much we love God by how much we love people. If the Gospel has truly changed our hearts, our loving actions towards people would show it.

“They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him.” – Titus 1:16

I have a hard time loving people like my co-worker. When she acts unlovable, I want to do some pretty stupid things. For example, when she gets annoying, I want to tell her, “Man, last night was so crazy. I was drinking my weight in beer, I was smoking a forest of weed, and I was banging villages of random girls”. I don’t drink alcohol or do drugs, and I haven’t had sex nor do I intend to until my wedding night. However, I’d love to say all that and watch her get infuriated with me. I can be a prick like that sometimes. That wouldn’t bring any honor to Jesus though.

Jesus wants us to love everyone, including the unlovable people in our lives.

Whenever I meet unlovable people, I think about God’s love for them. God shows them love, while I don’t want to show them love. This leads me to ask myself, “Who is wrong in how they’re acting: God or me?” The answer is obvious. God is never wrong. I should love them like God loves them.

I should also wonder why my co-worker is acting unlovable. The jerk is a jerk for a reason. They might be going through a dark season in their life, they might be recovering from traumatic events in their past, or they might be a straight up jerk. We don’t know, so we should love them like Jesus loves us.

If we’re honest with ourselves, we aren’t always so lovable.

When life is going smoothly, Jesus and I are BFF’s. I share my ice cream with him, we skip together to church, and I even let Him use my Netflix account for free. However, when something doesn’t go according to my plan, I can sure act like the Grinch. I keep my vanilla bean ice cream all to myself, I walk fifty feet in front of Him to church, and I cut off His Netflix privileges. I’m a jerk to Him, but He is still good to me.

Friends hugging in rural landscape

He never stops loving me. He is always faithful to me, even when I’m unfaithful to Him. I’m sure, if you looked at yourself hard enough, you will see that you’re the same. You’re not so perfect, but God’s perfect love is always being poured out on you. He never stops loving unlovable people like you and I.

God’s love always gets us back on track. When I’m at my lowest, His love restores me back to where I need to be.

Life might seem to be falling apart, but His love reminds me that things are falling into place, since He is in control.

His love quiets the storms in my life.

That unlovable person in your life needs to be loved. Love is the only thing that can get them back on track. You don’t know the storm they’re going through, but God is calling us to help them by loving them with the love God has shown us.

Jordan Kranda
Follower of Jesus. Husband to Ariel. Master’s of Theology (Greek Track) Graduate. Future Pastor. Present lover of cheese, Blink-182, & watching sports.


  1. this is so important! it is commonly the most unlovable ones that need it the most. great reminder to how we should reflect God’s grace and love.

  2. I have had similar experience, I use to hate my research guide, she was very partial she gave me just passing grades no matter how much good I performed. I felt like punching her. But there was a soft voice whispering behind my ears You have tasted my love she has not tasted my love. I wanted to hate her from the depth of my core. I said Jesus I hate her. Please don’t bring her into my life wen I passout from college. But in the end I realized God was dealing with the hatred inside me n I started having neutral feelings towards her. Now I don’t hate her.

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