My co-worker told me today that she couldn’t imagine me upset. She said that she couldn’t picture me yelling and getting angry. I take this as a compliment to how I behave at work, but, the truth is, I get angry. I have always struggled with angry. I just hide it well. Maybe you can relate.
Maybe you don’t let your angry show to people? Maybe you just keep it bottled up and let it explode later when no one is around? Or maybe people tell you that you’re an angry person? Or maybe you’re somewhere in the middle. We all deal with angry, but how do we let go of that anger?
Letting go of one thing means grabbing hold of something else.
I just go married. It was a wonderful day, but something happened that I haven’t talked about with family or friends. It’s something that really bothers me and something that led me to write this post. It involves my father. We haven’t had the best relationship, it’s been on and off since I was about ten years old. However, things have gotten better. He told me two weeks before my wedding that he’d be there, but he never showed up or texted me why he didn’t show. My wedding was a wonderful day, and it didn’t ruin it or anything, but it’s been almost two months since my wedding and I still think about it. I’m hurt and upset. I wanna call him out and demand an answer and blah blah blah.
Maybe that’s what I should do, but, at the bottom of it all, I’m angry at him. I’m holding onto my angry, but letting go of angry means grabbing hold of something else. When I’m angry I’m not being productive or doing anything remotely honorable. I’m just brooding. I’m sure you have felt the same way. But what is the something you and I should grab ahold to let go of anger.
To let go of man’s anger we must grab hold of God’s grace.
When I’m holding my anger, I’m not holding God’s grace. When I’m angry at my father and I can tend to become bitter or easily annoyed. This isn’t the life Jesus has called me to live. I need to let go of my anger and grab hold of my God.
God tells us things our anger doesn’t tell us. When I’m listening to my anger, I think the person I’m angry with is foolish and deserving of my disrespect, but when I listen to God, I’m reminded of my foolishness and wish to be always loved, even when I don’t deserve it. In other words, God is forever teaching me the Gospel. I’m a sinner in need of a Savior. I disrespect God every day by my foolish sin, but God somehow finds a way to love me anyways. He doesn’t ever waver in His love for sinners like you and I.
When we let go of our anger and grab hold of God, He gently reminds us that we should love people like He loves us. The Gospel isn’t just something we hear, but also something we live out. It’s a tremendous way to bring honor to Jesus by loving people like He loves us.
There is a place for anger. Righteous anger can motivate people to do wonderful things, but our earthly anger we often struggle with is what leads us away from living the life Jesus calls us to live. Being bitter and thinking the worst in people isn’t the path of a follower of Jesus.
Sure, I’m still hurt by my father, but grabbing hold of God means the context of that hurt is His grace and not my angry. My hurt reminds me of the many hurts I have given people, including my father. I haven’t always been an honorable son, so I should be thinking more Christ-centered thoughts, and I am now that I have grab hold of God.
The way to let go of our angry is by grabbing hold of God.