I walked out of that job interview beaming with confidence.
There was no doubt in my mind that I had nailed it. I showcased myself as a strong candidate through the answers I gave, I looked sharp, and I had a blast, too. A friend asked me, “How did the job interview go?”. I jokingly responded, “It went so good that I’m preparing myself to remain humble when they give me the job”. Needless to say, I was feeling pretty sure.
Two weeks later, I got an email saying I didn’t get the job. It blindsided me. I felt like a fool for being so cocky and I also felt ashamed, since this company felt like I wasn’t good enough for them.
Rejection comes in all shapes and sizes, but it’s always a tough pill to swallow. We might be feeling good about our life, but, when we get rejected, we can quickly fall into despair.
Rejection can be a brutal, but there are lessons to learn from rejection, which helps to ease the pain. There’s many lessons, but here’s four that I reflected on that help me to get over getting rejected.
We aren’t in control of our lives.
Many people like to think they’re in control of their lives, but we aren’t. We can work really hard and still not get recognized. We can think that we will go on a vacation, but something can come up and change our plans. I succumbed to this false mentality when I confidently proclaimed that I would get the job. We’re really not in control, but we like to think we are.
You might think that you not being in control of your life is discouraging, but it’s actually really encouraging. Let me explain.
I have a friend who is horrible at driving.
Whenever I’m in his car, my relationship with Jesus couldn’t be stronger, since I’m deeply in praying, asking not to die. I haven’t become the man I want to be and I haven’t practiced fulfilling the creation mandate with my future wife yet. I get scared in his car because he sucks at driving and I don’t have control.
This is what a lot of people fear life will be like, if they accept they’re not in control of things. However, accepting that God is in control is kinda like driving with my grandpa. Driving with my friend is stressful, but driving with my grandpa is another story. When my grandpa is driving, I rest easy, since he’s the only thing smoother than his driving skills is his smooth riding car. I just sit back and relax because I know he’s in control and he’ll take me where I need to be. This is what life is like for the Christian.
We’re not in control of our lives, but God is. We don’t have to worry about little hiccups along the way, since God’s plan is always better than our plan. We should thank God for being in control, since if you and I were really in control, then we’d be in trouble.
The past reminds us that we can trust God in the present, and in the future.
Getting rejected can make you think about a lot things, most of which are probably not so good. One of the most encouraging things to do to calm the storms of your heart is to recall how God faithfully guided you through a past rejection. The past is a treasure chest of instances where God left His fingertips all over an act of grace, especially in the midst of a rejection.
I am not a ladies man. I grew up thinking girls were the bomb and I wanted to date them, but I had zero skills (or “game”) to get a date. In other words, I experienced a lot of rejection from the opposite sex. The worst rejection from a girl wasn’t the “no” I heard when I asked them out, instead the worst rejection was when they ignored my mere existence. Now that cut deep.
All of that had me thinking I had to forever sleep in my single bed with my single self. I was going to be the dude who has dresses up his dogs and pretends they’re my children, since I never had any real children. I would never have a special someone to share a meal at Taco Bell. However, after spending far too much time single, God finally brought me my Taco Belle.
God brought Ariel into my life. I’m grateful to have her in my life, especially after years of rejection. However, past rejection taught me a lot about how to be the man of God that Ariel deserves. I learned that I had a lot of junk in my life, which I needed to work on. A lot of my rejection didn’t come solely from girls, but it also came from within myself. This rejection forced me to think about areas of growth I needed in my life, which, in turn, brought about growth in these areas. I am a better man for these rejections.
God speaks to us through things like the Bible, prayer, sermons, but He also speaks to us through things like rejection. God spoke volumes to me and I was listening. I pray you are, too.
Turn to God’s Word for encouragement.
The Bible is like the headquarters of golden nuggets of truth. McDonald’s might only give you a limited number of nuggets in each meal, but God’s Word has an endless amount of golden nuggets of truth. We study the Bible, so that we can learn about God and to have things to remember in the midst of trials to bring us back to having a Godly mindset.
When I got rejected as a candidate for the job, the Bible brought me a lot of encouragement. One story (and it’s a big one) brought clarity to my situation.
This Biblical story comes from a likely source: the life of Jesus. Jesus endured a lot of rejection, but the greatest rejection He endured was the rejection on the cross. Jesus experienced a kind of rejection that no other person will ever experience. It was beyond anything you or I could ever imagine. We get a glimpse of His feeling of rejection when we read when Jesus utters, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?“(Matthew 27:46). Jesus was drowning in suffering and He felt completely alone. He felt rejected by everyone, including God the Father.
This rejection ran deep in His veins, but, due to that rejection, you and I have fellowship with God. The rejection of Christ leads to the acceptation of man. If God had a plan for the rejection of Christ, then He has one for our rejection, as well.
We might think rejection means things are falling apart, but maybe, just maybe, it means things are falling into place. Have faith in God’s plan. We can rest in His grace, love, and mercy and be assured we’re in good hands.
Be thankful for what you do have, instead of being bitter over what you don’t have.
Experiencing rejection can make us forget about the blessings in our lives. You might have the nicest car, but rejection can make you forget that car. You might have some bomb mac & cheese in front of you, but rejection can even make that bomb mac taste like boring mac. However, if you many blessings, so focus on what you do have, instead of on what you don’t have.
I found out I was rejected from the job on a break at work. I was relaxing with music blasting in my ears and a soda in my hand. Life was good, but then I got the email saying I was rejected. I felt like I just got the wind knocked out of me, but then God led me to reflect on the lessons you’ve read about in this post. Doing this helped to look at my situation with a Godly clarity that also led me to see the many blessings in my life.
For example, I want to leave my job at Disneyland to get something new, but I do have a job, which is a huge blessing. Looking for a job while you still have a job is a lot better than looking for a job when you don’t. Also, and I consider this to be a bigger blessing than having a job, I was able to be the guy who made funnel cakes at Disneyland. I’ve never been honored like this before, but on the day of this rejection, I made funnel cakes.
You can call me a genie because I was making dreams come true! I made brownie, strawberry, and plain funnel cake. I’m not bragging or anything, but I also made some half strawberry, half brownie funnel cakes. I really showed off that day.
I was rejected by a job, but I still have many blessings. Some little, some bigger.
You might think you can think of any blessings in your life, but how about thanking God for that breath you just took or how about just the simple fact that you woke up today. Now, those are big blessings. Not to mention you’re reading this right now, so you have access to the internet, which many people do not.
We’re not in control of our lives, but God is, which is a blessing to us.
The past is filled with God’s faithfulness, which reminds us that we can trust God in the midst of rejection.
Studying God’s Word fills up our encouragement tank by showing us God’s faithfulness, not only to us, but to others in the past. We gain fuel that keeps us going.
And lastly, we might not have all that we want, but we certainly have all that we need. Being thankful helps to overcome many worries.