You are a beautiful woman. You have a bright future ahead you and now you’re looking for a guy to share that future with. You shouldn’t settle for just any guy. Instead, you deserve the guy who Jesus wants you to date. The kind of guy Jesus wants you to date has the following qualities:

He Loves Jesus

If he doesn’t have a relationship with Jesus, then don’t have a romantic relationship with him. If Jesus is your everything, that should show in who you date. Don’t demote the King for a prince. The Bible says that Christians shouldn’t date unbelievers (Read my blog entitled, “Why Christians Shouldn’t Date Non-Christians“). Your spouse should motivate you to become more Christ-like, but he won’t know what that looks like, if he doesn’t even know Jesus.

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He’s Humble

If a man’s favorite subject to talk about is himself, then buy him a mirror and leave him alone. That guy is not the guy for you. You deserve a man who is humble. Being humble helps when you try to solve disagreements. If he is prideful, all the problems will be your fault. If he is humble, he will be able to see where he messed up. Pass on a prideful guy, hunt for a humble guy.

He’s Open With You

It’s been said that guys have a hard time talking about feelings. Some guys find it easier, but most find it hard, including myself. However, you can still find a man who will openly talk with you. He might struggle in the beginning, but if he loves you, he will work on it for you. Communication is key in a relationship, since you need to talk about your problems. If you don’t talk about your problems, then they only get worst. Communication is key.

You’re Don’t Get Bored With Him

You’re going to spend the rest of your life together, so you better be able to have fun with them. You should be able to talk for hours and feel as though it was the best time ever. In other words, they should be all the entertainment you need. You shouldn’t need an extravagant date to have an extraordinary time. Sitting across the table from them should be what excites you the most.

He Honors His Mom

A good test of how a man will treat you in the future is by looking at how he is treating his mom in the present. You want to spend the rest of your life with him and she has already spent all his life with her. You can see how he treats a women who he deeply loves and intimately knows.

He’s Honest With You

You shouldn’t waste your time on a guy who will waste your time lying to you. He also shouldn’t keep secrets from you. If you aren’t honest, then you can’t be trusted. If you ask him a question, you need to be able to trust that he is being honest with you. If you can’t trust a man, then you can’t date that man.

He Doesn’t Smell Like A Wet Dog

This should be basic, but some guys aren’t getting the memo. If every day he doesn’t take a show and brush his teeth, then tell that dude needs to take a hike. You shouldn’t be able to detect what he had for dinner the night before on his breath. That is a no-no. If he doesn’t take care of himself, then he won’t take care of you.

He’s A Gentlemen

You are a queen and you deserve to be treated like one. Your man should want to opens your door, pulls out your chair at restaurants, pays the bill, compliments you, makes your needs more important then his own, listens when you speak, helps you put on your jacket, is in tune with your emotions, calls you rather than texts you, walks you to the front door, doesn’t rush the first kiss, and has a plan for the evening. He doesn’t do this because he sees you as weak and unable to do them. Instead, he wants to honor you and make you to feel special. His love for you is what motivates him to treat you like a queen.


You might not think that you deserve this type of guy, but you do. Don’t ever believe that lie. You are a daughter of God. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of a great guy. Never lower your standards just because you think you couldn’t get a great Godly guy. You can! And you will! God has that special someone for you. Be patient, enjoy your singleness, and focus on living for Jesus.

As you think about what you want in a Godly man, work at becoming a more Godly women for him.

What else should a Godly girl look for in a guy?

Leave your comment below.

Jordan Kranda
Follower of Jesus. Husband to Ariel. Master’s of Theology (Greek Track) Graduate. Future Pastor. Present lover of cheese, Blink-182, & watching sports.

26 COMMENTS

  1. Thank you for this blog!!!This what I’ve been working on my inner-self and writing some notes as well similar to yours!!! Is very impressive every statement you had written it fits all the criteria of the image of God how he wants a king of his image to walk in a spiritually man of God with all gentleman manner to know how to treat a Queen I’ve written down all your notes there’s someone I have my eyes on one particular but before I make that step need to read some scripture and look into verses Learning the definition of love, Ask Specifically, Renewing my mind, Being Steadfast, Prepare My Love, My Harvest and Trust in him!!! And stay humble!!! Thank you for your spiritual words of growth!!! My the lord continue bless you in his words!!!

  2. I just wanted to say I love all of your posts on Facebook and your blogs. I find them very insightful. As someone who’s young trying to live a Godly life it’s very uplifting and encouraging seeing your peers doing the same. I wish you the best at everything in life.

  3. Thank you so much for your advice on what we as single woman of God should look for in a Godly Man. I totally agree with you. At my tender age of 50 i have finally realized this to be very true. If a man does not know God for himself, and Love God first, he can’t possibly Love a Godly Woman. You said everything to the exact truth, and i loved it all.
    I have been going through a lot of things lately mentally. And this is something that i have been constantly thinking about. So when i stumbled upon your blog, i know it was Jesus Holy Spirit talking to me directly.
    Thank you sir, and May the Lord continue to use you as his vessel to spread the words that you need to speak to those of us that need to hear it.

    Be Blessed

  4. Right now it looks like Movable Type is the preferred blogging platform out there right now.
    (from what I’ve read) Is that what you’re using on your blog?

  5. Love your blog so much. Its really hard to be a “good Christian girl” in the world we live in. There have definitely been times when I have struggled with wondering if its worth it. But your blog truly gives me hope that God does have someone special out there for me 🙂

  6. When I first read your blog, it was the homosexual blog, I ‘ve been an avid reader since then but I have never commented. I follow you on Twitter and I may have added you on Facebook (not a creeper, I promise). But I love your posts and I love how real you are. You are funny and I think one day you will find a great girl. I just wanted to comment from a Godly girl who is waiting on someone who is just as mature in Christ and loves Jesus as much as she does. I’ve met a boy who met the criteria above and I thought he was the one, and I just felt this tug in my heart that said no. So I backed away and I don’t know, I feel like God will tell you when the right person is there. I think that is what happened with me, on paper the guy looked perfect and in God did not want me to be with him. I think I am just rambling right now. The point I am making is that for the longest time, I honestly just thought God just wanted me to be with a passionate Christian who met the criteria above, but the truth is, He does have a plan and a husband chosen specifically for me. And I love that, I love how good our God is. I’m going to stop rambling now…. But as usual, good blog post! I just thought I would post a comment for once. Who knows I may post more. 🙂

  7. I have enjoyed this blog post so much! I was recently in a relationship that was everything, but what is described here and I am ashamed that I didn’t realize that I deserved better at the time. But I have soon realized that I deserve better and that God wants so much more for me. I can’t wait to marry a man who is everything that you have described because that’s what God wants for me. Thank you so much! Keep blogging. (:

  8. It looks like you could use some help editing your posts. Reply to this comment if you’re interested and I’ll get in touch with you.

  9. You certainly have a good grasp on your theology but you show no love or compassion to individuals. So I’m not quit sure how anything you say will be effective to the “lost” as I’m sure you call them. Nothing to do with this post really – just all of them as a whole. 🙂

  10. Disappointed that you included “He’s Physically Attractive” to the list.

    How is that supposed to make our brothers in Christ feel who have birth defects or who have been victims of accidents or who just aren’t “attractive” by society’s standards?

    • I personally think he wasn’t referring to society’s version of “attractive.” Just because you aren’t attractive by society’s standards doesn’t mean that you can’t be attractive to your significant other, it’s subjective.

    • Chapter four of Song of Songs is all about Solomon praising the physical beauty of his wife. He praises every aspect of her physical beauty. He was attracted to her. Nothing is wrong with wanting to be physically attracted to someone. God invented attraction. Also, all people are physically attractive to someone. Some girls think I’m unattractive, while others say I’m alright – this is true for everyone.

  11. This is a great post! I especially like “You might not think that you deserve this type of guy, but you do. Don’t ever believe that lie. You are a daughter of God.” It’s easy to read this post as a girl and say blah blah blah because I’ve dated a guy who was incredibly disrespectful and after awhile, you believe that it’s what you deserve. But, when you relate it to Jesus dying on the cross for us, it makes sense. We are loved by the Lord and deserve respect. I pray that women truly believe they deserve more and hold men to a higher standard. I also pray that men, like yourself, stay strong and know that you deserve respect and a woman of God who will be your companion.

  12. I LOVED this! I agree with each quality you discuss. Those qualities have been on my list for a long time so it is a great reminder to know that this is something that is obtainable. Love that I found your blog via twitter and I can’t wait to read more! 🙂

  13. Wow! Thank you so much for your blogs! I randomly stumbled across you on twitter a month or so ago & have just LOVED what you’ve had to say. Your blogs are interesting, thought provoking, and challenging. Thanks for your stand for Christ and brilliant godly advice. (:

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